How did we end up here?!

My mother has a saying " when money troubles come in the door...love goes out the window".

In this current economic environment, it stands to reason that stress is going to play a big part in people's views of each other. I know I haven't changed but my bank account has and because of that, so has my relationship. The Friday night ' dinner and a movie' is now the ' what do we have for leftovers and what's good on t.v.' Truly, in these times, this should bring couples closer together if they have a good foundation so why are so many people deciding to give up the good fight?

I seems that money has a way of smoothing over, if not, masking the problems that we have. For example, if Bob is a boob, it's okay because I will just go get a manicure and buy an outfit and that will make everything better. If Sally is a slut then going out on a drunken binge with my buddies for 3 days will make things better. Alas, without the luxury of money, we are forced to face what we really are left with and sometimes, it's not great.

I have a friend ( an I am sure you do too) who seemed to have a great marriage; one that could weather any storm. When her husband lost his job and she couldn't find work, the love went out the window along with any will left to fight for it. When I asked her if she is going to try and make it work with her husband, she said " We don't have enough time and money to fix what is wrong" Maybe what's wrong is they have been living in La La land and now what they have left is proving to be not enough.

All over the country, ' First Wives" clubs are springing up like weeds and men are gathering together at the local watering hole to console each other and lick there wounds. Women are trying to reinvent themselves and men are looking for greener pastures elsewhere when both need to look to each other for strength and guidance.

MY ADVICE (not that anyone asked me):
Remember. That's it, remember.
There must of been a reason people find and decided to be with each other. Remember the days of wine and roses, when frolicking in bed was the favorite past time. Dating didn't just mean going to the most expensive place in town it just meant that you wanted to be with each other. And remember "When money troubles comes through the door....CLOSE THE WINDOW!!!"